Falling Up not Falling Down 4


Do you fall down or

do you fall up?

I’ve pretty much always fallen down.  Then I pick myself up and continue on my way.


I’ve noticed that some people fall up rather down.  I mean this metaphorically of course. 


They mess up in a big, often embarrassing, sometimes scandalous way, and not too long after the dust settles from their screw up or ethical lapse, they get a more lucrative job or consultancy.  Often they garner a larger platform than the one they started with.


Perhaps my problem is that I’ve only had small screw-ups.  Perhaps you have to screw up in a grand way to get noticed.  Or perhaps you only fall up when you’re already on high ground. The thinking seems to be, oh,  he/she really screwed that up – let’s see how she can handle this bigger job… organization… pot-of-gold.


I’m not envious really, I’m mostly curious.  How do they do that?


What do you think, dear readers?  Have you noticed this phenomenon?


About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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4 thoughts on “Falling Up not Falling Down

  • Pattie

    I guess I need to fall gracefully :) Whenever I have made mistakes I am unable to “recover” from. However, I see other people rise higher despite major compromising of an organization. Hello….DotWell, Urban League, INROADS.

  • Candelaria

    I think we can all point to co-workers who rose despite not doing visible work.  Sometimes it has to do with people having a perky personality.  I haven’t figured it out.  One can be the go-to person who gets things done but that doesn’t guarantee promotion or success.  Oh…well…
    If you fall and you’re hurt why should you be graceful?  To say nothing of when you’re pushed down!

  • LeeAnn

    Sometimes, in my life, I feel invisible. I think those who fall are rarely invisible and perhaps one must be visible to move forward. Maybe it’s not so much fail or succeed as simple visiblity (I think I’m having a bad day!)