I’ve bought bathrobes for two men in my life. The second man became my husband (and still is). I thought the first man was going to be my husband but it didn’t work out that way. We got close but no further.
Buying a bathrobe meant to me that he was going to be a long-term part of my life. I shopped for it carefully, trying to find just the right color and texture.
The signal I got from my husband that I was going to be a lasting part of his life was when he gave me space for my things at his place.
Other signals and sign-posts along the way that indicate longevity were:
- Being introduced to his family. (In general, women open up our lives to men much quicker than they open their lives to us.)
- Accompanying him to special events.
- Making plans for New Year’s Eve well in advance of the date. (My sister told me, “If you spend New Year’s with him, that’s your man.” She was right.)
- Exchanging keys.
For me, buying the bathrobe was significant because I don’t tend to buy gifts for boyfriends. Buying a robe, a not inexpensive purchase, meant that I intended this man to be around a long time. He is and he still has that bathrobe. Whenever he puts it on it reminds me of our courtship.
I was so shy when I gave it to him – not wanting to act like it was as big a deal as it was for me yet not wanting him to think it was something I did frequently or casually either.
What signals do you look for or give to feel that your relationship has become serious and will go the distance?
Bathrobe is a very special gift for your beloved ones. It is a sign of love and taking care. And it would be better if you can it monogrammed.
Yep… and anther way to tell if he’s your man is if he gives you all his numbers to contact him. The beeper, the cell phone, the house phone and the job number….Okay