I’m a Christian and… 2

I’m a Christian and it informs everything I do because I was reared Christian in a missionary Baptist household.  We went to church every time the door opened.  I was baptized in the Mississippi River, an experience I remember profoundly and am in the 8th draft of a story about.  Mine was a good childhood. It was not flawless but then, whose is?  I grew up with a clear sense of right and wrong and a feeling of being protected by my extended blood and church families.


Except for this post and an interview of me some years back in the Christian Science Sentinel, I don’t talk about being a Christian.  I’ve written this post because I’ve been dismayed over the past several years and recently about the behavior of some people I hold dear and some new friends in the making over statements and attitudes around what they consider being Christian to mean.


So here goes:





I’m a Christian and it doesn’t mean that I need a Christian stylist to do my hair or need to find a Christian credit union or  use a Christian bakery.


I’m a Christian and it doesn’t mean I can’t go places where alcohol is served.  In the household I grew up in, alcohol was forbidden but it didn’t mean Uncle *** couldn’t come to dinner and have his “taste.”  It didn’t make me recoil at other people drinking.

I’m a Christian and it doesn’t mean that I don’t dance or pretend that I don’t by calling my movements praise dancing. (Even though the steps and the music beats aren’t lifted straight from secular music. ) Dancing is dancing. (Liturgical dance is different.)

I’m a Christian and I’ve “peeped” that a lot of other people I’ve met who are not Christian hold and live similar values as mine…sometimes they live them better.

I’m a Christian and it doesn’t mean that I have to be narrow in my thinking or pass judgments about other people (except in these blog posts, of course).  I would never say to someone else, “You’re going to hell because…” something I’ve had said to me by an oh-so-Christian childhood

friend and heard other Christians pronounce to others.



I’m a Christian and have learned that “everybody talkin’ ‘bout heaven ain’t goin’ there.” (Don’t know where this phrase comes from but I’ve heard it all my life.)  This means that my red flag goes up if I hear “have a blessed day” too ardently.


I’m a Christian and I’ve learned that going in the church doesn’t mean you’re of the church.


I’m a Christian and I pray and say “Lord, have mercy” throughout my day.  It helps me, I can only suggest that it may help you.



About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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2 thoughts on “I’m a Christian and…

  • Jim

    I’m glad to read it explicitly stated, but I knew this from your writing. You live by the golden rule…do unto others as you would have them do unto you…which includes being left to one’s own beliefs. What’s more, I’ve read you as you have changed your mind, and come to new conclusions! I’m not a Christian, but I’m not anti-Christian either and I’m with you.

  • Candelaria

    Thanks so much for understanding what I write and for seeing that I do my best to live by the golden rule.
    As always, your comments are right on and appreciated!