My mother once shared the following line that she overheard a man saying to his girlfriend, “I ain’t lyin’ I just ain’t got to the truth yet…baby.” It brought a laugh from my mother when she heard and from me when she recounted it. I’m not sure if the girlfriend found it as humorous especially in the moment it was being delivered to her. Secrets and lies – we all have them and we all tell them but they are not the same thing. Both serve their purposes. Secrets and deceit are not synonymous. Some questions to consider: I may not be right but that doesn’t mean that I think I’m wrong. I may withdraw but that doesn’t mean I’m gone.
Who’s right and who’s wrong in injurious conversations or long-term relationships?
Without spelling out definitions should we assume that we’re speaking the same language, carrying the same images, upholding the same values, or looking at our titles/designations/roles in the same way?
Can one person ever truly understand another?
Words lie but does that mean that actions are true?
Confused?
Me, too.
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