Unforgettable except by me sometimes 3

I apologize.  Profusely.

You’re not forgettable.  I, more often than not, forget.

I can’t remember your name.  I do remember your face (except for when I don’t).  Sometimes I remember the place we met and bits of our conversation.  Other times I have no memory at all of meeting you.

This is especially difficult and downright embarrassing when you remember my name and other details.

I apologize.  Profusely.

You are not forgettable.  I am a person who forgets.

It has always been this way with my brain.  Some things, even obscure or unremarkable details, I retain.  Other things (like names and vital information) I forget. 

It is as if they’ve been erased from memory, forever.  (Except for a day or a week or so later when they pop up, long after I needed them to.  Thanks, brain-of-Candelaria, for the delay.  It’s too late now.)

I apologize and promise to:

Stop pretending to remember more than I do.  It would just feel better to say, “I’m so sorry, I can’t remember your name” or “I don’t remember where we met, do you?”  And smile and reconnect or tick you off because I don’t remember you.

Again, I apologize.

You’re unforgettable except when I forget.

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About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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3 thoughts on “Unforgettable except by me sometimes

  • miruspeg

    We often pretend don’t we Candelaria, when confronted by memory loss.
    I am terrible with names but very good with faces, so I have to own up and tell them I have forgotten their name.
    We can’t all be Einstein’s!
    Love the short, sharp post.
    Peggy xxxxx

  • Lilly

    Where do I know you from again? Oh I forget names all the time – to the point its concerning. But I always just admit it – some people are forgettable, usually relatives I find, lol.