Do you miss me? 1

Do you miss me?

Do you even notice that I’m not there?

Does my absence register?


I think not.


Does what I might bring were I there matter to you?


No it doesn’t. 

I  think you’ve gotten so used to only seeing variations on yourself that you don’t even notice who and what is missing.

I think you are so comfortable in a monochromatic world that you truly are colorblind – blind to the lack of color.

I think you do well enough with homogeneity that you don’t even think about the benefits of diversity. 


Yes, we are all human. Yes, we are all unique.  But monochromatic diversity is not enough.

Such uniformity is not reflective of the city we live in or the world (except when it comes to so many of the institutions).  The world has a bounty of variety among all its inhabitants – land and sea, flower and fauna, and humanity.  In fact, multiplicity is one of the most enduring features of the natural world.

If you missed me, you’d do something about it.

If you missed me you would do everything to make sure that the array of experienceand  knowledge, to say nothing of my style  and flavor,  would be  part of your businesses, organizations, and neighborhoods…part of your world from which I and members of my tribe are noticeably absent – at least to me though not, apparently, to you.


The reality, is that people like me should be half+ of your employees, officials, boards, politicians, artists, businesses, etc.

 I should not be the occasional visitor or guest, I should be the host – determining the menu and the venue.


I hear the refrain, “I miss you,” from a Michael Jackson song and “I know you miss me, I know you miss me, I know you miss me, bli-ind” from Boy George..but that’s my wishful thinking.


No, you don’t miss me at all; that is why the more things change, the more they remain the same.


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About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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  • Carolyn

    I love the poetic feel of this piece. In a low key and non-threatening manner it pokes at the passive aggressive movement towards national homogeneity via monochromatic diversity practices. Thank you.