Love came, you missed it 2

You asked for love to be delivered into your life.  You prayed.  You implored. You wished.  You made lists. You bemoaned the slowness with which your request is being answered.  The problem was/is…but before we get into that.  Looking back, I can see opportunities for love missed by friends, family and myself.


It was the packaging.  We couldn’t see the forest for the trees.

Love came but:

He was too short.

She was too fat.

He drove an old, beat-up car.

She was plain.

He was quiet.

She was loud.

He was the wrong color.

She was the wrong shade.

He was too young.

She was too old.


You couldn’t see for looking away from the love:

Sitting next to you.

Working in the same office.

Living around the corner.

Delivering the mail.


You didn’t notice:

Their efforts to make conversation…

Their lingering long after it was time to go…

Their consideration and kindness…

Their genuine interest.


You complain, implore, impatiently tapping your feet – where is the love I asked for?

I sent it.

Where is the one I’ve been searching for?

Right there.

Why can’t I find someone to love me?

Because you didn’t notice that special one you were sent.

You didn’t respond to them.

You wanted something more when you’d already been sent one of the best.

You looked above them, around them, and through them but didn’t step to them or let them step to you.


So now you have to wait. 

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About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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2 thoughts on “Love came, you missed it

  • Peggy

    When I was much younger than I am today I know love came and I missed it, so yes I have many regrets.
    Many lessons have been learnt and hopefully love will not be missed from now on.
    Excellent post Candelaria, poetry in motion.
    Peggy xxxx

  • Candelaria

    Regrets…we all have them but can’t dwell on them which I know you don’t haven’t read your blog.
    Hopefully love will find you soon.  Thanks for commenting.