I had a great time visiting my family in St. Louis recently. Our trip was cut short but before the call came that shortened the visit and altered my world, my sister and I shared a big laugh. She is a wise woman with a wicked sense of humor and a very direct delivery.
“How are you gonna hurt my feelings?” she said, as she recounted an incident with some kids she was teaching. “What can you tell me that I don’t already know about myself?”
“You shouldn’t try to hurt my feelings, but I shouldn’t let my feelings be hurt.”
“I’m overweight, I’m old, I got a gap in my teeth…yeah, I know. What else you got?”
We had a great time running with this concept. Bottom line is, our mirrors don’t lie to us. Sometimes just getting out the door is the best we can do (although we do tend to do better than that…we actually iron and coordinate).
Nobody can criticize me any more than I criticize myself. And because I am honest with myself, I can keep moving forcefully through the world.
“Baby, you are fat. You are also smart, beautiful, young, and attractive. You must be attractive or why would they be worrying you so? Lose weight if you want to, meanwhile be the best fat you can be. Keep it moving.”
“Darling, you are short. It’s okay. It’s who you are.”
Soon there’ll be some real sh** to worry about but name-calling, naw. Don’t give the words power. Do what you need to do to live your life and prepare for your future.
Hurt my feelings by calling out things I already know about myself.? Naw, that ain’t happening.
Love you, Sis.
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