Revive It – the “it” being love 1

You can, you know.

Love, you know.

Find it, claim it, and revive it.


If you really want to – that is, if both of you really want to.


Sometimes one in the duo has to decide to take the lead and to actively love, to break the mundaneness of love that become passive, faded, or a bit neglected.


So, you wake up in the morning and think I love him.

Send a love wish his way as he starts the day.  Say goodbye with a kiss and a hug.

Listen to the same old stories and complaints with new ears.

Listen as an ally/lover/friend.


Make the everyday things special.

Use the good china, cloth napkins, mute the lights or dine by candlelight.

Sit on the couch and watch a movie or show together and hold hands.


Read something out loud to him – part of a poem, a novel, and interesting article from the paper or a magazine.


Slip a love note into his wallet or pocket.

Send a text message of love.


When love goes missing, having been brushed aside because the world beckons and work and interests keep you busy, take a pause.  Hang on to your love.  Reclaim it.  The way to get love back  – front and center – is to love.



If you liked this post, you might also like:


Sometimes Love Goes Missing  



A Dance with My Husband



About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

Leave a Reply

One thought on “Revive It – the “it” being love