My most important and on-going relationship is the one I have with myself. I’ve learned to take care of myself, to pay attention to myself, to like myself and to do for myself.
One of the most important things I’ve learned thus far in my life is to be comfortable being alone.
My home is a universe to me, and, especially during cold, dreary winter days, I can stay comfortably ensconced in it. I fill my time by:
- Reading
- Writing
- Blogging
- Internet Surfing
- Dancing
- Watching movies and various how to and reality shows. (One I love is “Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives” because Guy Fieri, the host, is just so outrageously enthusiastic)
- Cooking
- Listening to music
- Hanging out with my husband
- Talking to friends on the phone
- Meditating
- Day dreaming
(Not listed in order of importance!)
I am also comfortable being out in the world alone. I
- Go for long walks – sometimes including errands, sometime just walking.
- People watch (and make shameless running commentary in my head about the people I see).
- Go to the movies (I never have arguments with myself about what movie to see.).
- Pack a lunch or go to a restaurant for lunch (I always get to eat what I want to eat).
- Meander.
- Shop.
- Etcetera
I think being comfortable by myself has made me better able to be with others.
I am comfortable with myself, I like myself, in fact – I dig me some Candelaria. (It’s quite a blessing to like and accept oneself!)
*Jill Scott, the phenomenal lyricist, poet, singer and actor, wrote this song that says this more eloquently than me.
One is the Magic Number
If I multiply 2 times 2 is it really, really 4 me
La [x6]
And if I add 5 to get 9 minus 8 that just leaves me
Me [x8]
So many times I define my pride
Through somebody else’s eyes (La da da, la da)
Then I looked inside and found my own stride,
I found the lasting love for me
If I’m searching for my spirituality
Passionately I must begin with me
There’s just me…
One is the magic number [x2]
If I add myself unto myself multiplied times
You and yours and you again
There’s just me
And if I divide 8 billion, 48 trillion, 98 zillion
There is, there is just me
If I subtract one plus me to the 5th degree,
Use any theorem
There’s just me
There’s just me…
One is the magic number [x2]
Me, me, me, me…
[Ad lib to end]
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One is a magic number – although it is not the only magic number. But before you can get to any of the other numbers, you’ve got to start with ONE…meaning You..