Good, Better, Better…Not…Good, Badder, Badder

In the last few years, my mother told me two sayings that I wish she had given to me earlier in life. Of course I might not have been able to hear them or to absorb and believe in their wisdom when I was younger but it would have been nice to have had them.

The first saying comes from my great grandfather, Papa Pillow. Mama says that he always said that a relationship was supposed to be “good, better, better not good, badder, badder.” She said that he meant in the early days of a relationship it’s supposed to be good, a honeymoon phase where one delights in finding, meeting and knowing the new love. This is as opposed to relationships that start out with an attraction and then go almost immediately into negatives and drama, lots of drama, ups and downs, starts and stops, and general crapola.

A lot of my sister friends aim too low in relationships or they try to force a fit because they “just don’t want to be lonely.” A lot of my brother friends can’t see the good woman while check out the babes. A lot of very good people miss each other because they are looking for specific physical attributes. I’m working on a piece about this called