“A no in disguise.”*
- I’ll get back to you on that.
- I don’t have my calendar with me. Let me check it give you a date.
- have to check with so and so about such and such…
In other words:
- you don’t want to meet with me,
- you don’t plan to follow-up on the project and
- you are full-of-manure, fake, phony…
You might be on of those people always talking about what you’re “fittin’” to do, who just want to go on record as being interested and helpful even though you don’t plan to follow through and do anything. (You know who you are.)
It’s a no in disguise (except when I say those things, of course).
There are also lies in disguise, as when so many people say to someone who knows me, that they’ve been trying to reach me.
“I’ve been trying so hard to reach you…” (Uh, no you haven’t. If you googled me you can find me plus my phone and email haven’t changed in six years.)
“You’re so tough to get a hold of.” (Uh, leave a message on the answering machine. I’m not tough to get a hold of. I return phone calls and email messages. So you must be lying.)
(*Thanks to my husband for this phrase. It hits the nail on the head.)