When You’re Alone, What do you do? 3


Do you close the door to the bathroom when you’re alone?
Do you make up the bed even if no one but you will see it?
If  you’re driving alone late at night or early in the morning, do you obey the traffic lights or go on through?

There are things we do in the dark, when we’re alone, when no one else sees us.  There are things we do out of sheer force of habit.

If you discover that you weren’t charged for an item that you in fact intended to buy, would you go pay for it?
If you found a wallet with cash inside of it, would you return it?  Would it depend on whether you’re broke?  Would it depend on how much it was?  What about if there were credit cards that indicated the person whose wallet you found wasn’t hurting for money?  Would what they look like determine your action?

Should you tell everything you know?  Should you express everything you think?  Is keeping the peace wiser than having true, honest communication?

Does a lover need to know that someone flirted with you?  Would you confess if you flirted back?

If you knock over a display or break something in a store, do you go to get it cleaned up?  Do you return things to their proper shelves if you’ve decided not to purchase them?  Do you return your shopping cart to the proper place (is it called a carousel) or do you leave it in the parking space next to your car?

If a clerk gave you too much change, would you let him or her know?

If you buy two bottles of soda, and one fell and broke, would that be your loss or your husband’s?

There are things we do when we’re alone, when no one else sees us.  There are things we do in the dark.

I’m just saying.  Holla back.


About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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