Musings about life


Love can return after it’s gone missing

Sometimes love returns after it’s gone missing. It can be found again… Can you love someone that you see clearly, who is no longer opaque, mysterious and unknown? Can you love someone whose flaws are apparent – at least to you if not to them?  Can they love you when […]


Sometimes weird is just weird 6

When I was young, I was attracted to people who looked interesting and weird to me.  There’s a time in your life when you chafe at what you’ve always seen and been around.  You want to fit in with the cool kids, the interesting people, the early adopters of – […]


No One Comes from Nothing _ Stop Saying This! 1

“I came from nothing.”  “S/he came from nothing.”  I hear this phrase applied or self-described regularly when someone who has made an achievement noteworthy enough to make the news recounts the journey.  It is a convenient sound bite and it drives me coo-coo plus it just isn’t true. Stop saying […]


To be real about resilience 9

I’ve listened to many keynote speakers, presenters and panelists talk about the importance of resiliency over the years for Blacks, other people of color, poor people and women.  What I’ve yet to hear is a speaker getting real about resilience: the tools they used, the situations they faced and who/what […]