self-esteem


Beauty Role Models – look around 3

Sorrow and incredulity rose in me as I watched a discussion recently on a local television show whose  panelists discussed a lack of role models for them as Black (and one Latino) women and then dissected the role models they mentioned.  They were discussing actors and singers as visual role […]


Defining Blackness – Beyonce, Jamelia & Candelaria 2

Note: I posted this piece in 2009.  It bears repeating because of the recent brouhaha over Beyonce’s blackness.  It has never been in question for me. I loved the spoof about this on Saturday Night Live (see video at end of this post)  and I loved the rebuttal by recording […]


To Be Real – Thoughts about Rachel/Caitlyn/Laverne 3

“It’s got to be real. To be real. It’s got to be real.“ The chorus from Cheryl Lynn’s 1978 disco hit, To Be Real,  keeps running through my head as I think about Rachel Dolezal, a white woman who’s been passing herself off as a Black woman for quite a […]


Did you realize you were young? 2

When you were young, did you realize you were young? When I was young, I didn’t know I was young. I sometimes knew I was the youngest person in the room.  This happened often as I was growing up because I skipped Kindergarten and one grade in elementary school, so […]


How to stick to a job 2

Recently, I’ve had conversations with and about four youngish adults (all in their early thirties) and one fortyish adult who are not working. They are male and female.  All grew up in stable, solidly middle-class homes.  Some were reared by two parents, some were reared by single mothers, and all […]