I don’t agree 1

You cannot get me to agree with your decision not to hire me.

You can explain all you want to.  You can explain all you need to.  You had your reasons.  Good reasons.  Sound reasons. You made the decision that was best at the moment for you. But surely you don’t expect me to agree with it.Surely you don’t need me to assuage your feelings about your decision.

There’s no way, no way, no way you can make me feel good that I wasn’t selected.

There’s no way, no way, no way that I will agree that the other candidate was better than me.

I bear no ill feelings. (You don’t have to dodge me when you see me.)  I’ll speak to you.  May even send a few informational items your way ‘cause that’s how I do.

I know how diligently I work, how resourceful I am, and how creative. I know what a quick study I am, how I will immerse myself in a topic and get up-to-speed on the things that I don’t know or that have grown rusty. I know what an impact I’ve had in my work.

I know how many people I have worked with who stay in touch years after  we worked together because I motivated them and taught them something that they still use. I know me. Magnificent me. (I know other parts of me as well but they’re not in this post.)

So stop the explanations.  Let it go.

You will not get me to agree with your decision not to hire me.


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About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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