Just don’t go



It’s okay to say no.


It’s okay to not go.


It’s okay to stay home.


Sometimes you need to nest.


You have to replenish yourself.


And shore up your base


To maintain your flow.


 


Give yourself permission to take care of yourself.  Give yourself permission to just be.


 


Like most everybody I know, I am busy, interested, curious, and committed.  There is a world of stuff to do:  meetings, events, activities, and gatherings to say nothing of tending to relationships, chores, and interests and, yes,  what’s that other thing I’m forgetting?  Hmmm…work, there’s always that, too.  (Sometimes it feels like work is interfering with my life.)


 


I/you really can’t do it all; nor should I/you try. (This is, of course, easier to write then practice.)


 


We have to decide what our focus is for this decade, this year, this month, this week, today. 


 


Sometimes It has to be all about the children or all about your beloved or all about the studies or all about the career or all about the neighborhood or all about the vote or all about your faith or health or talent or giving back.


 


Sometimes you can juggle 10 balls in the air…other times only two.  Whichever of those times you’re living,  give yourself a rest, a retreat, a siesta, a Sabbath, a nap, a meditation, a mindless staring into space.  Twiddle your thumbs and balance, BaLaNcE, balance.


 


Just say no (sometimes).  Just don’t go.


 


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About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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