Apology Desired/Expected

There are some apologies from public figures that I desired and expected, perhaps stupidly.  I am glad that I didn’t hold my breath waiting on them or else I would have choked from the lack of air.

It doesn’t matter why you did it, you did it – apologize
It doesn’t matter when you did it, you did it- apologize

It doesn’t matter that it’s been a while since the infraction – it’s never too late to…apologize

It might go a little something like this.

(From the politicians):

  • I apologize for letting you down,
  • I apologize for betraying your trust,
  • I apologize for tarnishing my image,
  • I apologize for my lack of integrity. I asked for your votes and your contributions, publicly but I have not been public with saying “I’m sorry,” what I did was wrong.

(From the speaker/pundit/ambassador)

  • I apologize for phoning it in, not preparing remarks (even though I was paid a hefty fee for my appearance), speaking off-the-cut (and not well), rambling to an expectant audience who deserved my respectful preparation (you should have a list of points you make when you make appearances at the very least)
  • I apologize for losing my vaulted place, which has left a void years after I lost it

(From the billionaire and the preacher)

  • I apologize for being shady, undignified and illicit and unlawful
  • I should have done better

These words or some variation of them would mean a lot to me,  a member of your public who voted for you, donated to your cause/your campaign, who came to your presentation and bought your book, who looked up to you, and who expected more of you. It would be a beginning step to help restore your image to this someone who’d held you in such high esteem.

I know it is hard to say, “I’m sorry,” face-to-face.  There are other ways so can do it:

  • You could issue the apology in an ad (but that would cost and you don’t manage money very well or so it seems from your behavior)
  • You could apologize for free in a social media post
  • You could apologize in a letter to the editor
  • You could apologize at the public gatherings where you still hold forth.
  • You should apologize even if our community forgives so easily.

It’s never too late to apologize but, we… at least I won’t hold my breath.

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About Candelaria Silva

Candelaria Silva-Collins is a marketing, community outreach and programming consultant; writer; and trainer/facilitator who lives in Boston, Massachusetts. She has designed and facilitated workshops on a wide variety of topics including communication, facilitation, job search skills, team building, and parenting issues. She currently coordinates the Community Membership Program of the Huntington Theatre Company. Her work as Director of ACT Roxbury was profiled in several publications, including The Creative Communities Builders Handbook. Candelaria’s children’s stories, short stories, essays and reviews have been published in local and national publications and she is an active blogger. Her publications include the booklets, Handling Rejection; Pushing through Shyness: Networking Tips when You’re Shy, Slow to Warm Up or Just don’t Feel you Belong; and Real Questions about Sex & Relationships for Teens: A Discussion Guide for Parents. She has served on the boards of Goddard College, Wheelock Family Theatre, Boston Foundation for Architecture, and Discover Roxbury. She is currently Chair, Designators of the Henderson Foundation.

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